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Contact: shimogawa.t@gmail.com. Also found on Twitter.

Teresa Shimogawa is a storyteller, fledgling existentialist, feminist, and a human being trying to do good things. Grief hijacked her life when her husband unexpectedly passed away in 2016 and left her a young widow and single mother. Check out her essays. She writes a lot about grief.

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Last formal pic of all of us, August 2015

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  1. Lisa

    Read your article on the death of your husband and was so touched, impressed, moved.
    Having lost my mother at age 7 I understand your pain from a different view. I watched my father stagger and falter and then send us to relatives. With nothing of my mothers, nothing to hold on to.
    You are doing it right. Guiding your children to understand they have a choice-finding the good, the lesson, the strength -these and your love will lift them up when you can’t. Thank you

    • House of Teresa

      Thank you so much for your comment. I love to hear the child’s perspective. I constantly wonder what my children are really thinking. Whenever I feel sorry for myself, I realize this is worse for them. I still have my parents. I will never fully understand what this means to them.

  2. Mark

    Beautiful, brave article on Tiny Buddha. It touched me very much and I’m sure will have a similar effect on all kinds of people. Keep being you, you sound pretty amazing.

  3. Athina

    I came across your blog after reading the article in Tiny Buddha and read every bit of it. You are just brilliant. It is amazing how you decide to go on and it inspires me. I like your perspective. 4 months after my mother’s sudden death, I am nowhere like that, even though I’m your age with three young kids and a husband who’s still alive. I will keep coming back.

  4. Roshnee

    Dear Teresa,
    I also came across your article
    on Tiny Buddha. I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your husband. I will continue to read your beautiful writing and wise words of wisdom. There is a blog I follow it’s called Second Firsts by Christina Rasmussen. Her writing also speaks to the soul of those who are suffering through the loss of loved ones.
    Thank you again.

  5. Sruthi

    Hi Teresa,
    I lost my father less than a month ago. though I know in my heart that he’ll want me to move on and make him proud I am not able to control the tears when I remember the amount of hard work he put in so that I could have a good life. I didn’t get a chance to pay my gratitude the way I wanted and I feel it’s not fair to him and me. I know if I catch on to this “I have to make him proud” feeling I will achieve things in life but I doubt if I will ever be happy again for I was happy not when I achieved things but when I shared the news with him and watched him happy.
    Also thanks for your wonderful piece on tiny buddha. I read a number of self-help articles but this is the one that I come back to again and again to get myself back on track.

    • House of Teresa

      It’s a work in progress, let me tell you. I vacillate between feeling ready to conquer the world to garbage can (currently in the sludge right now). I also think of the regrets. But…knowing that none of the negative will amount to anything positive while I’m alive, I try to push forward the best I can while making space for the hurt in small doses.

  6. Lor

    Just read your article on tinybuddha and loved it. Much love to you and your family!! Keep sharing your story, as it inspires others xoxo

  7. Sabiha

    Dear Teresa, Just finished reading your article on Tiny Buddha and I am in tears. So sorry what your children and you had go through. But I am also in tears with emotions of admiration for your wisdom…Much Love, Sabiha

  8. Carolyn

    Hi Teresa, I sit here with tears in my eyes since finding your page after getting your Betrayal of Expectations article from Tiny Buddha. I can’t imagine what you have had to go through these last 2 years, but I want to thank you for your exemplary ability to persevere. The last few months have been very challenging for me but reading your page has helped me remember to keep it in perspective; My family & I are healthy, & I have a roof over my head. Keep fighting the good fight & I will be visiting again for sure! 🙂

  9. Chelsie Kappius

    I found your story on Tiny Buddha, it’s so raw and real and it’s refreshing to see. The way you share your true feelings of resilience and your flexible expectations are truly inspiring. Thank you for not giving me a sugar coated, social media curated version of your experiences. If we were all more honest about our pain we wouldn’t feel so alone in it. You have true courage to get “in the ring” as Brene Brown would put it.

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